ah, a bit of a sensitive area for all of us. constructive critisism. unfortunately, i don't think i am the most approachable person in this area. not that any of us are, but, i have been told that i am opinionated and "spicy" (as my mom calls it). this probably doesn't lend itself to being very approachable, unfortunately. but...i am also a resonable person and believe in being fair and honest with the people i love, as i hope they are with me.
i read this great devotional tonight from an fca (fellowship of christian athletes) friend, jere johnson...
FCA Pep Talk: "Constructive Criticism"READY:"An ear that listens to life-giving rebukes will be at home among thewise."-Proverbs 15:31
SET:One of a coach's toughest jobs is telling athletes what they are doing wrong. Most coaches try to do it constructively, but even then many athletes will choose to ignore the instruction or make excuses, blaming everyone else for the problems they have caused. Recently, I too was reminded of my imperfection through constructive criticism. What a blow to my ego! But we all need correction and people who will speak truth into our lives. Though we do not always want to hear what they are telling us, we still get to choose how we respond to the correction. Many choose to take criticism personally, and that holds them back from making the necessary changes for the better. Those who can listen to this type of correction and react accordingly will no doubt be better off in the end. I have seen far too many athletes handle constructive criticism poorly, and it has ruined many a good athletic career. I myself would have to plead guilty to not always taking criticism the right way. But Christ wants to speak truth in our lives, many times in the form of the Holy Spirit's constructive criticism. Again, we have a choice to respond positively or to make it personal. The Lord knows that this criticism is for our own good, and when we realize that, we can grow deeper in Him. What we all need to remember and learn is that most people who offer constructive criticism truly are trying to help us. Words of encouragement should prod us on to great living in Christ, not the bitterness of spirit that brings glory to Satan and his troops. So next time someone gives you constructive criticism, just say, "Thanks for caring enough to tell me what was on your heart."
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